My, oh my! I could write a book on this subject but I’d start off here. Personally, I expect that when good is done for you, particularly such that you can never reciprocate, thanks be shown. This I believe is COMMON SENSE). But we’ve become so ‘technologically advanced’ that we do not see the need to appreciate a good done to us. I have seen that pride causes people of
I have seen that pride causes people of honour to fall into this pit of ingratitude. They rationalise by saying “after all, he/she was meant to give me this/that”. No! You are wrong, what you deserve is beating with koboko (whip) soaked inside tatase (chilli pepper).
My precious mother, till date, will remind my siblings and me, as old as we are, that when she does something for us, we ought to say “thank you Mum”, even if it’s a day after the favour has been done. She says it shows your depth of gratitude.
This is to say some persons actually show gratitude, however, not with depth. See ehn! Deep only calls to deep, if you sow sparingly, you’ll reap same (2 Cor. 9:6).
Dr. Emmerson Eggerichs, in his book Love and Respect, said something I can never forget, let me paraphrase it; when you do something you don’t feel like doing, however, you know it to be right, DO IT! It isn’t hypocrisy but responsibility.
He gave an illustration of waking up after our alarm has rang; we wake up not because we want to but because we have to. So is gratitude, even though you do not like what you’ve been given, yet, show appreciation and avoid showing disdain with your gestures and facial expressions (cause they speak louder).
It would be selfish of us to show gratitude simply because we need more. But rather to express our appreciation for the thought of that gesture shown us. Not everyone is thought of in the sense that they deserve a gift, so when you receive one, you had better receive without complaint.
Appreciate the heart behind the giving not the giving particularly. It shows you were well thought of.
P.S: If a person giving you a gift shows how mindful they are of you, then, your showing appreciation shows just how thoughtful you are also.
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